Yesterday, I went to a bowling alley. I went to the toilet and the disabled toilet had a sign on that said “not all disabilities are visible”.
This made me very positive that people were finally realising this and it’s time the general public did. There are many times I have not used services available to me due to the fear of being judged. This includes being judged by other disabled people as well as those who are able.
Firstly disabled toilets. People always get mad when they see someone using a toilet that doesn’t appear disabled. If they arent in a wheel chair or something along those lines the funny looks you get are horrendous – especially if there is someone waiting for the toilet that is clearly visibly disabled.
They are many reasons for using a disabled toilet. For me all though not strictly using the toilet they tend to be my only safe place for seizures as they are a larger area and until I can find an alternative this is my only option.
Secondly there is the issue of using the lift. This becomes most apparent for me at university. Due to my chronic Fatigue Syndrome stairs are a killer and are actually the most tiring part of going to a uni lecture. It may only be one flight but using the lift would help me retain so much more energy.
However I don’t use the lift. Never. For one there is signs everywhere about using the stairs to get fit and be healthy, don’t be lazy etc… I understand what they’re trying to achieve but it’s very demoralising on my part. Secondly my friends roll their eyes and call anyone lazy that uses the lift for any less than 4 floors.
Finally, there is when you’re in the lift. The death stares, tutting and whispering about how annoying it is that you took the lift just for 1 or 2 floors. How dare I? If I was in a wheel chair or on crutches there would be no question about the use of the lift and people would be fine with it. It adds about 3 seconds onto their lift time but they get so angry about it.
People don’t understand things are not always as they seem. They don’t think. However I dont think many people are educated about the term disabled as it is always associated with a wheel chair. I have just as much right to use disabled facilities as them yet I do not due to the fear of being judged and looked down on…
It’s definitely something wrong in society.
NOT ALL DISABILITIES ARE VISIBLE
Everyone should be aware of this.
So next time you see someone using a lift, dont call them lazy. If someone goes in tbe disabled toilet, don’t question it (unless they make it obvious they’re using it for convenience so they dont have to queue for example).
Just be mindful. You never know someones situation.
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